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Become
Attractive To A Man From The Inside Out
>Note: One of the most destructive things you
can do in your relationship is let your FEARS
take over and start causing you to say and do
things that push your man away. And most women
fail to realize it when their own fears are
"running the show". Learn how to quickly make
the positive emotional shift inside that will
naturally draw the right man back to you. Put
yourself back into the right emotional state
for love and a great relationship by going here:
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Dear EliteMater,
Tell me if this has ever happened to you...
You're with this great guy, but he seems to
be doing something that's not so great in your
relationship.
And it's starting to bother you.
A lot.
At first you tell yourself that it's no
big deal, and you try and be the "bigger person"
and overlook it.
But eventually it gets to you that he doesn't
see what's going on... and he doesn't seem to
be paying much attention or care the way you
do.
So you want to say something to him, but the
right time never seems to come.
Then one day he does something that, in
other circumstances, wouldn't be such a big deal.
But since you've been holding on to all these
other feelings and carrying them around inside
for so long... something happens that surprises
even you-
You completely lose your composure, and you
let him have it.
Maybe you yell.
Maybe you cry.
Or maybe you become completely withdrawn and
cold as ice.
Whatever you do, it's INTENSE.
You can actually feel all the emotions you've
been carrying around well up and pour out of you
in this moment.
And once you get started, you can't stop.
It ALL comes out as you get totally carried
away with your feelings and emotions.
Afterwards, you feel a sense of relief
because it feels good getting things off your
chest. And you know that it's good to share
your feelings and be honest because it can bring
you and a man closer.
But not so fast...
The man in your life doesn't act like he
feels any closer to you now that you've shared
how you feel with him.
Instead of him understanding you better, he's
completely WITHDRAWN.
Arrrggh!
Here's something you can do about this kind
of frustrating situation with a man right now:
If you find that your emotions get the best
of you when you try and talk honestly with the
man in your life and it's tearing you apart...
Or...
If you find that your fears and emotions are
keeping you from attracting the right man and
getting a great relationship started in the first
place, then there's something you need to do-
You need to quickly get yourself into the
right state of mind where the man for you will
be naturally drawn to you and your unique "energy".
Whether you're aware of it or not, he will
sense the mental and emotional "state" you're
in... and he'll either instantly "feel it" for
you, or he won't.
And sure, if you don't know what to say or
do you'll have a hard time as well.
But if you're not coming from the right
place as a woman inside... then it won't matter
what you say or do with a man.
He will hear how you are FEELING louder than
anything else.
And if you're feeling scared, insecure, or
uncertain... then he won't want to get any
closer to you.
Instead, he'll want to get away from you.
If you want to know how you can literally
transform the energy and "vibe" you put out
to a man, and you'd like create a lasting
emotional "shift" inside you that will have
you feeling better and making great decisions
in your life... then it's time you checked out
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If you're tired of hoping you do or say
the right thing with a man, and you'd like to
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Ok. So let's get back to it.
So you've lost your composure with a man
and let fly a whole bunch of feelings that were
bottled up inside you... and now he's acting
totally different.
He won't even talk to you now, and he acts
like talking to you is the very last thing on
Earth he wants to do.
But wait a second...
He was the one doing the things that upset
you or bothered you in the first place. And now
that you talk about them and finally get to
share your feelings, he pulls away from you!?
What gives?
Before I tell you what's going on here with
a man, I've got to be honest with you about
what it really takes to have the kind of loving
and honest relationship you probably want where
you can share exactly how you feel with a man.
The truth is, you'll NEVER be able to
CONTROL what a man does, or what he decides
to do.
Ever.
And if you try, it's going to mess things
up even worse for you and it will backfire.
If you've ever tried to change a man, or
"fix" him, or convince him to think or feel
differently about things in your relationship,
then you've probably spent a lot of time feeling
like you're beating your head against a brick
wall.
You already know that trying to TALK to
a man and get him to think or feel differently
when it comes to problems in your relationship
RARELY gets you the outcome you want.
But lots of women accidentally fall into
this trap.
And without knowing how or why, they find
themselves trying to change a man, get him to
think or act different, and generally "control"
him.
I'll say this as plainly as I can.
When it comes to men and relationships -
this NEVER works.
Ever.
And that's why trying to get a man to
change, think differently, or feel differently
in a relationship isn't the way to a more
certain, joyful, lasting love life or
relationship.
Now, does this mean that a man can't or
won't change what he wants, or the way he feels
about you and your relationship?
Absolutely not.
Men do complete 180 degree changes in a
matter of days or weeks with women ALL THE TIME.
In fact, I was just talking with two good
female friends of mine and both of their husbands
didn't want a serious relationship when they were
first dating.
So what did these two smart and amazing women
do?
Well, first they remembered that they love
themselves MORE than they love their relationship.
Which for some women seems like it would mean
acting "bitchy" or selfish.
It doesn't.
Because they loved themselves enough to know
that they were amazing loveable women.. they
did NOT go into the panic stricken "fix it" mode
that so many women go into when they hear their
guy isn't ready for more.
They were able to ACCEPT how their man was
feeling.
The second thing they did was simply
tell their boyfriend (future husband) that they
didn't see the relationship going anywhere that
worked for them because he didn't want what
they wanted... and that they wanted more.
*Note here - they didn't plead with them.
They didn't complain. And they didn't try and
fix or change him and tell him in so many ways
that how he felt was wrong.
So... what do you think happened for both
of these women with the men in their lives who
weren't interested in anything "serious"?
The men said, "Ok, I guess it's over" and
their relationships ended.
And the women simply walked away.
Oh no!
But wait... (and here's where it gets good)
What do you think happened next?
Both of these men ended up calling about 10
to 12 days later.
And guess what? Both of them were suddenly
100% certain and ready about moving forward
in their relationship.
So let me ask you...
Did these women try and get the men they
were with to love them and be with them by
pleading with them, complaining about what was
wrong, or trying to CONVINCE them?
No. But this is exactly what most women
instinctively do when a man starts showing
any sign that he isn't totally engaged in
their relationship - they get scared by it
and try all kinds of weak and convincing
behaviors to try and change the way he feels.
Hopefully you're starting to get the
fact that a man is NEVER going to change the
way he FEELS because you don't like how it
makes you feel.
Men can change in what they want and what
they feel... but the REASON THEY CHANGE rarely,
if ever, is because a woman asks them to.
A man will change when HE wants to...
when he has the time and opportunity to find
HIS OWN REASONS to change.
And no matter how smart and intuitive or
insightful a woman is, and no matter how
"right" she is about what's going on... a
man still has to change for his own reasons.
By the way- if you want to learn all about
how this whole Convincing/Withdrawal thing
works with men and how to make sure you avoid
it so your relationship comes together as quickly
as you'd like it to... then you need to check
out the best resource I know of anywhere for
seeing exactly what's going on here... and
learning exactly what to do about it.
In Chapter 3 of my eBook "Catch Him & Keep Him"
I show you why it is that most men will date
you as though they are going to remain single
and "casual" forever.
Then I show you what the common things are
that most women are doing in their relationships
to take on the role of what I call the "Convincer".
When a woman becomes the "Convincer" in the
relationship... a man's immediate and natural
response is to become the "Resistor".
Learn all the important signs that you're
sending convincing signals to a man, and that
you're upsetting the balance in your relationship
that will keep him from wanting to stay with you
and start asking you for more.
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Now that you're up to speed on the subtle
dynamic that keeps so many women chasing men
while pushing them farther away... I want to
get back to what's going on with YOU.
Here's a quick question for you...
Do you think there's something going on
inside you that's keeping you from being the
very best you?
Is there something about the way that you
feel inside, or the way you react when you're
around a man that not only doesn't help you and
isn't serving you... but is actually driving
a good man away without you meaning for it to?
One of the most amazing things in life that
I'm personally fascinated with is what I call
"blind spots".
These are the things that others see and
feel when they're around us that we can't seem
to see about ourselves. Even when other people
try to tell us or show us.
We all have these of our own.
The question is... what are your "blind
spots" with men?
And how much are the things you aren't even
aware of getting in your way right now?
If you're like lots of women who keep
repeating the same relationship patterns over
and over with the same kind of men... then
the reality is that you have some pretty big
blind spots right now.
Ones that you haven't been able to see
or recognize about yourself for YEARS.
Which means that odds are, you aren't going
to become aware of them anytime soon.
That is, unless you get a little help.
The reason I created my "Ready For Love"
program was to help you do exactly that-
To uncover all the blind spots in your own
life that are holding you back and working
against you... and you don't even know it.
It's fascinating to think that the very
things that we do and put our energy into that
we think are going to help us are often part
of our blind spots.
Which means, if you have a certain blind
spot in the way you act with men... then the
harder you try and the more energy you put into
getting what you want... the more you're going
to be working AGAINST YOURSELF.
In my "Ready For Love" program, I outline
the 4 common strategies women end up using to
try and get what they want with a man that end
up feeding their "blind spot".
These 4 failing strategies with men are:
1) Obsession: Wanting a different result with a
man by saying or thinking the same thing louder
or sadder or angrier until he gets it. And still
doing this no matter how poor the results
2) Blame/Idealizing Self: Being frustrated
that your guy doesn't "get it" and wanting him
to be more like you so that things will work
3) Victimization: Giving up on trying to connect
in frustrated resignation. Believing men are
hopeless OR that they have all the power
4) "Stuffing": Feeling so hurt, hopeless, or
overwhelmed and alone because things haven't
worked for you in the past, that you completely
shut off your love/sexuality to avoid pain and
heartache ever again. But sooner or later you
find yourself hurt in the same way again
When you engage in any of these "failed
strategies"... you're playing to your blind
spots and practically guaranteeing your own
failure and disappointment.
So what should do you do instead?
I'll share some tips with you from my
amazing *Ready For Love program...
*Details about this program, and lots of free
tips and insights are in this special letter
right here:
http://affiliates.hottopicmedia.com/z/65/CD147/&dp=843
Your very first step to stop accidentally
pushing love away from you is to accept your
part in love's creation... and in love's
destruction.
The truth is that it's YOUR BELIEFS about
love and how it works that has played the
greatest part in keeping you from its fullest
expression in yourself and others around you.
Accepting your part will give you back your
personal power to create and share Love.
Your second step is to look at what is
making you unhappy and evaluate if this
"work" you are putting in- is it for this
person you are dating, or the possibility of
what YOU want him to be?
Are you trying to change him, or subtly
convince him to be different than who he
really is?
What if a man was constantly communicating
to you that the woman you really were wasn't
good enough for him, and that you needed to
change to make him happy?
This isn't a solid or healthy foundation
for a real or lasting relationship.
Remember my two amazing married friends
who stopped wanting things to be different,
and instead accepted the men they were with
for who they really were, and how they felt?
Their relationships ended... only to be
recreated in a way that had the man truly
engaged and committed. And the rest was
history.
Of course, you can't fake your way through
this kind of thing with a man.
You can't want a man to change for you,
and feel scared and insecure about yourself
and your future... and then tell a man that
things aren't working as a manipulation and
get him to suddenly change for you.
You have to genuinely be in the right
place inside and have this be your "truth"
for your relationship to become TRANSFORMED
and GROW as a result.
Doing this out of fear and anxiety will
only backfire and the man will leave and
never call again.
That's why your third step here is to make
sure you start to discover all the blind spots
that are keeping you from what you want.
The funny thing about this is that the
act of starting to find and identify your
own personal "blind spots", and then HEALING
them is what is going to put you in that
magical emotional state that will draw the
right man to you and make him want to stay
with you.
The best way I know of to quickly get a
handle on your own personal blind spots, and
to heal from the things that caused them in
the first place is to take advantage of all
the incredible materials, insights, exercises
and tips I've put together for you in my
"Ready For Love" program.
It's time to transform your life, break
the negative patterns that have held you back,
and feel the joy and relaxation that comes
from attracting a man to you from who you are
and how you feel inside... instead of trying
to hide things and wonder if he'll get scared.
If you go to the link below right now I'll
let you try out my "Ready For Love" program
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and grow as you go...
Or you can watch this entire program on
DVD and get all the amazing tips, insights,
and stories directly from me as I lead a
group of amazing women through this program.
Put yourself back in the right place in
your life where the right things, and the
right relationship, easily falls into place.
It's an incredible feeling when things seem
to "flow" this way. The way love flows and is
meant to be shared and enjoyed.
So don't wait. Now is the time for you.
Go to the link below and let me know
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Bring love into your life now.
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I'll talk to you again soon, and best of
luck in Life and Love.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
