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5 Ways To Lose A Man... Fast

>If you've been finding yourself ACCIDENTALLY
saying or feeling things around a man that are
pushing him away from you, when all you want is
to share and feel understood, and as much as you
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Dear EliteMater,

Do you know how most women end up losing
the man in their life?

Do you know the reason most men end up
losing interest in the woman who they used to
be wild about?

Do you know how to lose a man, and how to
do it lightning-fast?

How to lose a man is an interesting topic
that there was an entire movie made about.

But why would you want to know about how
to LOSE a man?

Well, I'm going to throw out a crazy idea
for you to think about...

I'm going to suggest that you are probably
already an EXPERT at losing a man.

In fact, it might just come naturally for you.

For lots of women, this seems to be the
case.

But the real PROBLEM is that most women don't
UNDERSTAND why they're so good at LOSING the
man in their life.

In other words, they walk through the world
screwing up one situation after another and never
realize just how good they are at being bad with
understanding men.

And they don't realize that by changing just
a few key things they could change their lives
and their experiences with men DRAMATICALLY.

One great way to increase your success in life
is to start REALIZING what you're doing.

Most people call this AWARENESS.

The point being, once you actually understand
what you're doing and the results you're helping
to create around you, you can CHANGE.

So open your mind. Listen up. Start to
become more aware as I share some things you're
probably doing when it comes to men, dating, and
relationships.

TYPICAL THINGS WOMEN DO WITH MEN

Try this on for size...

What happens if a man expects you to act or
behave a certain way that's "negative" and he
doesn't like... and then you show up and
act this way?

Right.

Not only does he not like the way you're being
with him... but you're also doing something else
that will have him seeing you in an even worse
light...

You'll be acting very PREDICTABLE and fulfilling
all of the worst expectations a man might have
about you, or about women in general.

Here's something you might not have thought
about-

You, like lots of other women, are probably
acting in a ways that are often very PREDICTABLE
to men.

In fact, PAINFULLY predictable.

The thing is... as humans, we do basically
the same things when we get into common situations
as others, and we don't even realize it.

Predictable responses to common situations
happen often enough for most people that when
we get around someone new in our life... we can
often guess what's going to happen next.

Part of this serves a useful purpose for us
socially and in the way we relate and connect
with each other.

But part of it works entirely AGAINST US.

Here's why being predictable can be so bad
when it comes to men and dating...

Look at this formula:

Predictable = Boring

Boring = Emotionally Flat

Emotionally Flat = No ATTRACTION

No Attraction = No Interest or Attention
or Affection From A Man

One of the VERY BEST ways to lose a man is to
act or become very PREDICTABLE.

A huge mistake women make that causes them to
start acting predictable to men in negative ways
is GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER or putting your life
"on hold" for a man while you're trying to make
sure your relationship is working.

I'm not going to go into everything about this
or how it works this second, but if you've dated
a man seriously before... and you've later
broken up with him, then odds are you've realized
something like this that went on inside yourself.

The reality is that men are NOT attracted to
women who aren't living their lives in a
fulfilling way.

At least not HEALTHY AND ATTRACTIVE MEN who
would rather have NO RELATIONSHIP and be alone
if they can't have the right kind of relationship
for them.

If you act or feel lonely or hopeless, or if
you are waiting to share love with a man to start
experiencing joy in your life, you are shooting
yourself in the foot and getting in your own way
in so many types of situations you can't even see
it right now.

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Here are a few examples of how women act
PREDICTABLE, give too much of themselves
away, and make about 129 other huge mistakes
with men they've just met or are dating:

1) Calling Him All The Time

If you like or love someone, it's great to let
them know, right?

Yes and No.

There's a way to let a man know you love him
or you're thinking about him that will "fill
his sails" and draw him even closer to you.

And...

There's a way to let a man know you love him
or you're thinking about him that will end up
making him feel like you're "needy" and clingy
and he'll want space away from you.

It's great if you feel so strongly for a man
and you share such a great connection that you
can't wait until the next time you talk.

But even if you're not feeling "needy" about
why you call a man all the time... a man will
often PERCEIVE this as a sign of INSECURITY and
NEEDINESS and actually start wanting to talk to
you and be around you less and less.

It usually feels like a good idea when the
urge to call a man and get in touch comes up,
and you don't want to play "games" or censor
yourself.

And if a man could just open up to you, then
you could talk all the time and it would feel
great and do wonders for your relationship.

But the reality is that it almost NEVER works
this way for HIM.

Calling a man all the time and constantly
wanting to talk, and to have him talk to you is
a great way to lose a man before you even have
him.

And interestingly enough, it doesn't leave a
man much space to be coming towards you and
GIVING to you the attention and interest that
he could be if he wasn't responding and reacting
to you all the time.

Some women are so busy giving and trying to
communicate and be close to a man that they
cover up all the space, time and opportunity
where a man would otherwise be giving back to
them.

Of course, it takes slowing down and not
acting on those little emotional and mental
impulses all the time to create this kind of
space...

2) Doing "Nice Things" And Favors For Him

What do lots of women do when they meet a
guy that they "really like" and things are slow
to come together?

Well, they get into a series of long life
conversation about schools and families and jobs
and 100 other everyday things that everyone has
going on in their lives... only to realize that
it isn't creating ATTRACTION inside the man even
though they're sharing with each other.

He's completely "in his own head" and not
paying much attention to them.

So what do they do?

They think to themselves, "I better come up
with some way to connect with him as a woman to
a man. Why don't I try and HELP HIM with some of
the stuff he's having a hard time with. That way
I can help him out with what's bothering him and
he'll like me and know that I like him."

I call this the "Super-Sized Friend Approach"
where a woman tries to get a man to fall for
her by being a kind of "super friend".

If you've ever bought a man a gift for no
other reason than the sole intent of getting
them to like you, then you've done this one.
(Kind of like how some men think that if they
take a woman out to an expensive dinner or buy
her fancy things that this will win her love and
affection)

But what does this REALLY communicate?

What does this really do for a MAN when a
woman tries to help him out with his own
"burdens" in life?

Does it make him start feeling ATTRACTION
and LOVE for her?

Or does it do something else?

Doing this communicates a few different
subtle things:

A) That you're his "friend", and not a woman
for him to want and desire.

Men categorize and "compartmentalize" often. And
they are also very cautious when it comes to
women and REJECTION. If you're a man's friend
and you keep trying to be an even better friend
to try and get him to like you... you're only
reinforcing your role as friends and you'll make
it less and less likely that he'll ever think
or try and do anything to break the "friend
barrier" with you.

B) That you don't have the confidence or the
ability to get him to spend time with you for
NO REASON other than the fact that you'll be
together... and that you must not be WORTH
spending time with without some kind of bribe
or "incentive" for him.

C) That you have to do things in order to win
his LOVE and APPROVAL for you... and that you'll
do anything including spending your precious
time and energy helping him do even mundane
everyday stuff in his life just so he'll like
you. Seeking a man's approval by doing stuff
even he wouldn't want to do only tells a man
that you don't value yourself and your time...
and so neither will he.

Doing "nice favors", buying things for
a man, or helping him out financially are all
example of something that "sounds good" in the
moment, and might be thoughtful and generous, but
is BAD BAD BAD when it comes to dating, love, and
attraction.

Money doesn't make the man... just like
money doesn't make the woman.

And being "nice" doesn't work either.

3) Acting Like His Girlfriend From The Beginning

What's better than a nice, thoughtful woman
who is loving and reassuring and nurturing from
the very first date?

Well, to a man lots of things are better...

Like a woman that he doesn't even know if
he should want "logically"... but he can't help
it anyway.

Or a woman he can't stop thinking about and
can't quite figure out.

Or a woman who is so ATTRACTIVE on a physical
AND mental/emotional level that nothing else
really seems to matter but wanting to be with her.

But lots of women make the huge mistake of
thinking that the way to "date" a man is really
the same thing as being a good "girlfriend".

Of course, this thought process isn't too
conscious. It's just the way they act around a
man. And it ends up ruining things before they
even begin.

The man is just starting to get to know
her, and if he feels a "serious relationship"
starting before he's even had time to figure
out how he feels about this woman and if she'd
be right for him... most of the time he'll pull
away without any explanation.

If you come on too strong too soon in terms
of calling him "pet names", or staying home on
Friday and Saturday nights, or naming your kids
before you know each others last names... you'll
appear just like every other predictable woman
that has ever tried to figure out what a man and
a relationship is all about before it even gets
time to grow.

4) Telling Him How You "Feel" Too Early On

This might be one of my favorites because
it feels so "right" and comes so naturally,
but creates the wrong situations and dynamics
with a man.

I'm starting to think that women (and often
times men too in their own way) must come with
a mechanism that's wired in - that actually compels
them to open their BIG FAT MOUTHS and screw
things up when they're going well with a man.

And do this in worse and worse ways the
BETTER the man they're with.

I'll call this the "Feeling Confessor"
mechanism. It is triggered by strong feelings of
attraction and emotion toward an unusually
attractive and great man.

I've talked to A LOT of attractive and
desirable men in my life about their experiences
with the women they've dated... and they all
have one similar experience to share...

For some UNKNOWN and UNGODLY reason, women
just seem to LOVE telling great men how they FEEL
within the first couple of dates.

Maybe even within the first few hours.

As you might realize, I get a lot of emails
from women...

And one of the common emails I get goes a
little something like this:

"Christian, I met this incredible guy...he's
smart, interesting, successful... and everything
seemed to be going well... but I wasn't sure what
he was feeling... and he acted in a way that
confused me the other night... so I decided to ask
him how he felt and share my feelings...and for
some reason he reacted in a weird way and said
that he needs some "space" and some "time to be
alone"... I don't get it...."

Again, when you do this you're making all kinds
of huge mistakes...and basically doing everything
you can do to LOSE him by playing right into the
very things that aren't going to work for you,
help you be your "best self", or create the OUTCOME
you're looking for.

5) Keep Telling Him How You Feel When He Needs
Space

And as if the last example wasn't painful
enough, most women usually like to use this final
"nail in the coffin" technique as well...

Here's the situation:

You've met a guy you really like. Maybe you've
gone out with him a few times. Doesn't matter.

You do all the things you can think of to
SCREW IT UP, and you finally succeed.

You prove to him that you just don't get it,
that you'll lose your composure quickly and
easily and let it all out around him... and
generally show him that you're easily scared and
don't know how to handle yourself or what's
going on between you.

So he says, "I need some space" or "I need
some time to myself".

And what do most women do?

Of course. They KEEP telling the man how they
feel. They keep trying to "figure it all out".
And they keep trying to understand and to feel
understood.

And they do it in 100 annoying ways that only
make the man want to get farther away.

The thought that most women have is, "If he
only understood how I REALLY FELT ABOUT HIM, then
he would see past all this and LOVE ME".

It's painful just typing the words.

So there you have it.

Part of the magic formula for losing a man
fast. Interesting, isn't it?

But there's a much DEEPER message here.

The message is this:

If you don't understand the process of how to
make a man feel ATTRACTION for you, including the
things to AVOID doing, then you're not going to
have success.

Not knowing how the things you're doing and
saying affect a man makes it very difficult (or
impossible) to create what you want with a man.

And unfortunately, some women have a HUGE
disadvantage when it comes to men and dating...

You have emotional responses to situations that
take over your thinking and reasoning, and make
you do all the wrong things.

It's usually OURSELVES that best sabotage our
own success in life.

Don't let this get you down though...

The GOOD NEWS is that it does NOT have to
be this way. There is a BETTER way.

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Finally, the student comes to a town and is
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Your Friend,

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