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OK, so GET
THIS... I'm reading through some of the bazillion
emails I get every week, and I come across one of the
best emails that I've read in a LONG time. Are
you ready for the interesting part? It's from a
MARRIED GUY. Yep, you read that right. He's
married. He reads the newsletters and uses the
things he learns to improve his marriage. Go figure.
This guy was
able to explain in a few paragraphs a concept and
technique that I personally use, but have been unable
to actually explain and verbalize well. I wish I
would have written what you're about to read, but I
didn't (but I'm still a cool guy because I wrote what
came before and after it).
Check this
out...
***Conversation
Technique***
Dave,
I'm still having
great success with a rekindled marriage using you're
Tips on my wife. Thanks a million. Listen, I keep
reading over and over in the MailBags guys wanting to
know how to start, then keep a conversation going with
women. I work for a major oil company and have been
through many of there training courses on dealing with
people.
One particularly
interesting course was on "Information Seeking". For
this we first practiced picking up on "Key words or
phrases" the subject said. For instance, I'll try and
give an example using c&f even though you wouldn't use
this professionally on the job. Lets say you see this
great looking chick on the street and you tell her,
"That's an unusual looking dress you're wearing. Was
that made out of a shower curtain?"
She says, "Your
mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy store." Key
Words: Old Navy. "Oh, so you're in the Navy, huh?" "No
silly. You know, the big store over at the Mall." Key
word: Mall. "Oh, so you like going to the Mall and
buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your
girlfriends buy them also?" "My girlfriends are neat
dressers and my dress is very popular I'll have you
know!" Key phrases: "girlfriends are neat dressers"
and "dress is popular". "Well, if your girlfriends are
neat dressers in a popular dress like you're wearing
then I'm going into the shower curtain clothing
business..." I know, this is a lame example but the
lessons are this.
1) You start a
conversation with however you want then pick out key
words or phrases from what the person says.
2) You repeat
them in what you say then listen for new key words in
there next response.
3) You add a
little something new into the conversation REPEATING
there words you're using as Key words or phrases. This
tells them you're listening, even though you're
turning things around to be c/f in this situation.
Once we learned
to keep someone talking for 5 minutes, then 15 minutes
the company actually hired total strangers from a job
soliciting company to come and be our subjects. While
being videotaped we had to get the person talking and
keep them talking for 30 minutes. One important note:
If a person brings up something personal or whatever,
they wouldn't have mentioned it if they didn't want to
talk about it. These are great to Key in on. My
subject mentioned she was going through a divorce and
her ex-husband was a total jerk. I keyed in on this
and it's amazing what a total stranger will tell you
once you build a little rapport. When watching the
video you pick up on mistakes or you see something
different you could have said. You also pick up on Key
words and phases you missed. It just takes a little
practice. This is just one example of how you can
start a conversation and keep it going. Hopefully it
can be of help to you're readers.
JTM Texas
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Awesome. This is an EXCELLENT description of how to
keep a conversation going, keep it interesting and
unpredictable, and talk about ANYTHING and have it be
fun.
Read it again.
Now, let me sprinkle a little magic dust on this and
tell you how I use this technique personally.
When I'm having
a conversation with a woman, I'm not just listening
for ANY key word... I'm listening for a particular
KIND of key word (or words). I'm always on the
alert for any words or phrases that can be twisted,
turned around, misinterpreted, and misconstrued (is
that a word?) in one of a few particular ways...
Namely, in a way that says she's stupid, ditzy,
sexually crazed, or acting suspicious.
For instance, in
your example above, you suggested the following:
"That's an unusual looking dress you're wearing.
Was that made out of a shower curtain?" She says,
"You're mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy
store." Key Words: Old Navy. "Oh, so you're in the
Navy, huh?" "No silly. You know, the big store over at
the Mall." Key word: Mall. "Oh, so you like going to
the Mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do
your girlfriends buy them also?" "My girlfriends are
neat dressers and my dress is very popular I'll have
you know!" Key phrases: "girlfriends are neat
dressers" and "dress is popular". "Well, if your
girlfriends are neat dressers in a popular dress like
you're wearing then I'm going into the shower curtain
clothing business..."
Good. Nice one.
Now, let's dial it up a little bit... She says, "No, I
bought this from the Old Navy store..." Instead of
just keying into "Navy" and saying, "Oh, so you're in
the navy, huh?", why not take it to the next step and
actually MAKE FUN of her. "Oh, so is this what
guys used to wear in the Navy a long time ago... in
the OLD Navy?" Now you're BUSTING on her as well, AND
it's funny.
She says, "No
silly. you know, the big store over at the Mall." You
might try, "What kind of MALL are YOU shopping at? And
do your girlfriends buy dresses like that one too?"
Again, you're hinting that she has funky taste and she
shops in weird places. She says, "My girlfriends
are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I'll
have you know!" You could go with, "Oh, you have
girlfriends? You have more than one? Do they all
know that you think of them as a girlfriend? Or is one
of them the special one? By the way, if you have cute
girlfriends, then I think you and I are going to get
along VERY well."
...are you with
me here? What I'm doing is NOT ONLY looking for key
words to latch onto, but I'm ALSO looking for ways to
spin them to make fun, tease, and subtly suggest
various kinds of "racy" topics. When done in a funny
way, it's magic.
My very favorite
technique with women is "Cocky & Funny". If you want
to learn to master it, make sure you go and check THIS
out right now:
Once upon a
time, a guy I know very well went into a nightclub.
He was talking to a girl at that club for awhile when
she said, "Well, I'm getting tired. I think it's time
for me to go home." The guy answered "Go HOME?!
I just met you. I'm not going HOME with you!" She
said, "No, I mean I'M going home. I'm tired." He shot
back, "Maybe you don't hear me. I'm not going home
with you, so don't even ask anymore."
She said, "No,
that's not what I'm saying..." He replied, "And
besides, I'm sure my place is nicer than yours... so
if anything, you're coming home with ME." This went on
and on for about an hour or so. And you guessed it,
she went home with him. I saw it happen with my
own two eyes. Another off-the-wall (but pretty funny)
example of this is a story that a good friend of mine
told me about one of his friends.
His friend was
talking to a girl at a club and she was talking about
what kinds of things she enjoyed doing in her spare
time. She said, "...I like to go clubbing..."
He came back with, "Oh, like baby seals?" lol... Now,
that might not get a girl to come home with you, but
it's damn funny. Love it. This technique is
GREAT for keeping a conversation fresh, fun,
unpredictable, and FUNNY (if you know how to do it
just right). Use it.
Right now you're
probably thinking to yourself: "Wow, that's really
great. I sure wish there was a resource available that
could show me hundreds of great ideas like that... so
I could know exactly what to do from when I first meet
a woman to the first date... all the way up until we
get physical and beyond..."
Guess what?
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